When You Least Expect It

 

Everyone has someone they would rather not see.

And why does it always seem that when you aren’t thinking about them and totally don’t want to see them they walk back into your life?

really?

That happened to me the other day. I ran into my ex-boyfriend.

So I was headed to the movie theater to see the original Ghostbusters (1984) as it was being rereleased in theaters.

I was so excited that I even wore my ghostbusters costume.

Taking fandom to the EXTREME!

But then things went wrong. My theater app wasn’t working right so I had to print out my confirmation, but then of course the printer wouldn’t work.

Then I ended up getting stuck behind the theater security guy twice!

I then got stuck behind an old man complaining about the computer ticket window.

Just one thing after another

I finally reached the line and who should be in front of me? Michael.

Out of all the times in the past two years for me to run into him at the theater dressed in a Ghostbuster costume.

Sometimes I think my life could be a sitcom.

Now the last time I saw him was like two years ago and I was over him and the fact he cheated on me.

But because I don’t care doesn’t mean I want to see him. It’s like when you pass an area where a skunk has been, there is a bad stink that permeates the air and takes forever to get away from.

I had to wait behind him in line, but thankfully he was with his best friend. If he had been with the girl he cheated on me with (and later married) I don’t know if I could stop old hurts/my temper flaring up. I may have moved on, but in every path there are bumps in the road.

Anyways, I didn’t want to ruin the night, or taint it any further, so I just tried to ignore him.

Although I have to admit for a moment I felt pretty silly that after all this time I was dressed up in a costume.

But then that moment passed as I remembered how awesome I looked and how I totally rocked my costume.

And of course I saw that he noticed me and his reaction made me really upset. You see after he dumped me I went to talk to him and see if we could work it out. He acted cold and angry.

And angry after when I ran into him at the play.

what?

And angry at the theater when he saw me.

I’m like, excuse me?

What on earth do you have to be angry about? I’m the one that was cheated on! I’m the one that was dumped. I was the best girlfriend and you were the one who messed it up. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANGRY! I’M THE ONLY ONE ALLOWED TO BE!

It made me angry with him all over again.

What a horrible-

It really made me want to go up to him and just teach him a lesson.

But then after that moment of anger subsided, I remembered that if we hadn’t broken up I might have gone on longer dating a guy who didn’t appreciate me.

And I’m much happier as I am now then I ever was with him.

For more on my ex, go to You Put the Ex in Extinct

For more on Ghostbusters, go to Back to the ’80s

For more Oscar Wilde, go to Over and Over Again

For more stories from my everyday life, go to My Favorite Martian

 

You Put the Ex in Extinct

29) Things You Want to Say to an Ex

Sorry about the messy posting. I went out of town and didn’t have everything as prepared as I would have liked it. Oh well.

So I don’t really have anything to say to my current ex.

He was a jerk. And I don’t care about him anymore.

And that’s all I have to say on that. I’ve completely moved on.

To start the 30 Day Challenge from the beginning, go to Musical Madness

For the previous post, go to I Call A Do-Over

For more on my ex, go to The Final Chapter

The Final Chapter

So if you have been following my blog you probably wonder why my attitude from my ex went from I’m happy it’s over to he’s a cheating, lying,

Some of you are probably like that is every relationship, but no that’s not the reason. Let me back up and just give you who are new to following a brief recap.

So my ex and I broke up last year and it was not the best ending for me. You see I was away at school and we were trying to make a long-distance relationship work.

I had thought things were fine, until Michael, my ex started talking to me less and less. I went down to see him and he took an extra shift. When I was coming back for Thanksgiving he wasn’t sure he would be able to fit me in.

Now for all you people (and me now) it is clear that this guy was obviously moving on from me. But of course, I didn’t see it as:

So he was talking to me less and less and I was just so confused by it.

My grandfather died, and still barely any peep from him. I know, my grandfather dies and he can’t see me or comfort me. What a major loser, am I right?

So I go surprise attack him and see him, trying to get an answer out of him why he was so distant. Did he even want to stay together? You know, the usual questions. I mean I was so confused and unhappy and emotional, I just wanted the truth. We ended up breaking up. Now at first I was completely heartbroken, and there are earlier posts which detail that phase of my life.

In fact I stupidly blamed myself for most of it. Maybe if I had done this differently or this we would still be together.

Luckily, I eventually realized it wasn’t all my fault, in fact I was a great girlfriend. I sent him care packages, I treated him wonderfully and he was the one who was acting wrong and not like a boyfriend at all. I mean I got hit on by tons of guys and could have cheated on him or passed him up for someone “better”, but I didn’t as I really cared about him. I’m not gonna lie, it took a while, but I eventually got over him.

I realized that breaking up was better than being in a relationship that was becoming non-existent.

I mean he couldn’t even get up the balls to break up with me. Like what was he expecting me to do  over Christmas break? Never come around?

But then I found out something. You see, Michael was cheating on me those past few months of our relationship. When I found that out I was incensed! I wanted to hurt him so bad!

I was seriously angry. I would imagine myself going and punching his lights out.

I really wanted to make him pay. In fact it took every ounce of my will to not go to his work and teach him a lesson.

Now some of you this might seem a normal response, but for those of you who are shocked or appalled at my confession, let me tell you why this rankled me so much. You see I have always vetted the guys I date very throughly, so much that many don’t make it far with me. Yes, I’m picky but I just don’t want any old boy.

And I had allowed Michael to get farther than any other boy had. I became his girlfriend, which is something I had always stayed away from becoming as I was always afraid of picking the wrong guy. With Michael, I didn’t think we were soul mates or meant to be together forever, but he just seemed so right.

Only for me to find out I was dead wrong. Extremely wrong. You see when he asked me to be his girlfriend I told him I had three rules he had to agree to for me to say yes. The first was to NEVER, EVER cheat on me. Cheating is just a horrible thing to do as it screws people up for a long time. Second to call or skype me once a week, and third visit me at least once a semester. He agreed, especially to the first rule as he had been cheated on before and knew what it felt like.

That horrible guy!

How could he treat me like that if he knew how it felt! I was enraged! But slowly, I got over it.

It sucks that the first guy I gave my heart to turned out to be such a Wickham:

But I’m not going to let him have any more power over my life. I already wasted time thinking, crying, plotting revenge, etc on him.

It sucks that he turned out to be such a rotter, but that’s life right? You can’t protect yourself from everything.

Bitterness, resentment, and revenge may seem like your best friends, but they really aren’t doing you any favors.

After all, they’ve already misused you, why let them continue that. It is always better to move on.

And I’m not letting that guy hurt me anymore. After all I got the best deal. I love his family, and they still love me. Plus I’m amazing! Eventually, maybe not anytime soon, but one day he’ll realize what a catch I was and kick himself for letting me get away! Your loss!

And someone else’s gain.

And you are out of my thoughts forever.

And that would be the end of the post, except for one thing. I did see him again. And no I didn’t hit him or injure him.

You see every year my family goes to see the free Christmas play in town. And this year guess who had the lead? Michael.

Grab your torches and sharpen your pitchforks!

No I’m kidding. It actually wasn’t that bad. I saw his relatives again who I absolutely adore. I saw him and to be honest I didn’t care. I will admit that at one time the urge to kick him really hard came over me:

But it was a really small urge.

In fact seeing him again, I actually wasn’t impressed. No heartfelt longing to get back together. No breaking down and crying. In fact, nothing at all.

Now some of you might be wondering why I haven’t said anything about the girl he cheated on me with. I don’t really feel as if I can say anything because I don’t really know her role in this. Did she know he had a girlfriend? Did she try purposely to break us up? And to be honest, if she was actively involved than she is a horrible person, as scamming on somebody else’s person is just down right low. But, the person in the relationship is more at fault as they should know better.

And you know what, whoever is at fault, they’re going to get what’s coming to them. What goes around comes around. I don’t have to settle the score as someone else will. What’s important is to concentrate on me, and the next phase of my life.

Some of you may think, that’s a lot of personal information. Aren’t I worried if the guy finds out and reads it? Well, first of all:

And secondly, if he wanted me to say something nice, he should have been nicer.

Now I’m planning this to be the very last post on my ex, I’m not planning on seeing him ever, and I don’t think I will write another thing on him. Now think is the operative word as every time I thought the Verne Saga was over, he would come around again.

So I am going to end this last ex post with something I want you all to remember. If you have ever been hurt by someone, let it go and never, ever let it take over your life or destroy your personality.

Stay golden!

For more musings of me, go to Concentrated Awesome

For more on getting over a broken heart, go to If It Means A Lot to You

For more on Nicholas Sparks, go to I Don’t Want to Be in Love (Dance Floor Anthem)

For more on Sarah Dessen, go to I Will Survive

For more on Steve Maraboli, go to Love Will Find a Way

For more of my favorite quotes, go to The Many Reincarnations of Me

Remember, Remember The 5th of November

So today is Guy Fawkes Day and you know what that means…

So this something I actually have to thank my ex-boyfriend for. He may have been a cheating scumbag that at times I really want to punch in the face (or kick in the junk)

But he did introduce me to some great music, V for Vendetta, and The Sandman Chronicles.

As it is the 5th of November, it is time to honor it and V. V is amazing. First of all he’s played by Hugo Weaving.

I know, what an amazing actor!!! He has some serious fighter skills!

This was my first date with my ex and all I could do was swoon over him. V, that is not my ex.

Besides being an epic fighter, he’s a man with a message and something to fight for.

Now do I agree with everything he does? No. He never should have cut Evey’s hair. A girl’s hair is more than hair, it is a part of their identity, a mark of their femininity. What he did was just wrong there.

See Hook agrees with me.

But you can’t help but be swayed by him. He is so eloquent!

In fact, I became so enthralled that I actually wrote a song about the film from V to Evey. I composed it as I was biking to school and was unable to write it down. Sadly, by the time I got to class I couldn’t remember much. This is about all I can recall:

“I cut off all your hair,

But I swear to you I care

Because I’ve got a vendetta to win your heart

(Win your heart) (Win your heart)”

Silly huh? But what’s a fangirl to do?

So today I have a proposition for you all. Now none of you under obligation:

So last year my friend Benita, who is also a huge V fan, and I were discussing the film. She suggested that we should tag walls with Vs on November 5th to honor him. I thought that was a great idea, but didn’t want to get in trouble for vandalism. I thought we should do it in chalk, as it washes off, but that’s when I came up with a better idea!

But I thought what could make this 5th of November really special would be if we would post this picture on our facebook walls.

And then on 5 of our friends’ walls asking them to do the same. If we all work together we can cover the world!!! Think about it!

And never forget:

For more on dystopian futures, go to In Their Proper Place

For more on hot masked men, go to I’m Batman!

For more on Hugo Weaving, go to Beast or Man

For more films based on books, go to What Have We Done to Each Other?

For more on Lylod Alexander, go to A Hidden Wonder

For more of my favorite quotes, go to There’s Nothing Out There. Nothing in the Mist

The Animal I Have Become

*Note: I wrote this blog in October but couldn’t post it because of Horrorfest III. I am aware that things have changed on Supernatural, but I wanted to leave it the exact same way I wrote it.*

I thought this would be a great opening to a great song:

Animal I Have Become by Three Days Grace

This song is amazing. It has these chords that constantly run through your mind. The music is almost like a pulse and so hypnotic. It bugs me that I can’t explain better how much I love this song.  I just LOVE IT!

This song was created by the extremely handsome Adam Gontier.

He’s so attractive that I can’t help flashing his picture every time I talk about his talents. Anyways he wrote the song while he was in rehab for his addiction to OxyContin (a pain medication). He wrote it as he felt that he was losing himself during the addiction. He stated that “he had become abusive and angry and had no idea who he was anymore.”

It was super popular when it came out, being number one for over 7 weeks. Some of you might recall from an earlier post that my ex-boyfriend had lent this CD to me. Well I knew of Three Days Grace long before that because of this song and Pain; the two most popular of the album.

The music video is also amazing. He has this crazy, wild, black beast that he is trying to fight and overcome. It’s crazy!!! And it reminds us:

And that “Wild Thing” isn’t always good.

I can’t escape this hell
So many times i’ve tried
But i’m still caged inside
Somebody get me through this nightmare
I can’t control myself

So what if you can see the darkest side of me?
No one will ever change this animal I have become
Help me believe it’s not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal
(This animal, this animal)

I can’t escape myself
(I can’t escape myself)
So many times i’ve lied
(So many times i’ve lied)
But there’s still rage inside
Somebody get me through this nightmare
I can’t control myself

So what if you can see the darkest side of me?
No one will ever change this animal I have become
Help me believe it’s not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal I have become
Help me believe it’s not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal

Somebody help me through this nightmare
I can’t control myself
Somebody wake me from this nightmare
I can’t escape this hell

(This animal, this animal, this animal, this animal, this animal, this animal, this animal)

So what if you can see the darkest side of me?
No one will ever change this animal I have become
Help me believe it’s not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal I have become
Help me believe it’s not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal
(This animal I have become)

And now with Dean having become a Demon (sad I know) on Supernatural, the song makes me think of him.

For more on Three Days Grace, go to Gone Forever

For more on Supernatural, go to Monster Movie

For more on my favorite songs, go to All I Know About Trilogies is That in the Third One, All Bets are Off

For more on Dean Winchester, go to I’m Batman!