Since U Been Gone

So here we are another step in the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series. As you recall from Gone Forever, Put Me Out, and But It’s Alright; we still are in that angry at my ex phase. So here we are with:

16) Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson.

Now I have always liked Kelly Clarkson, although I have never really thought of myself as being a major fan. I remember when Kelly Clarkson won American Idol (yep back when the show was good and the winners actually went on to do something). I even watched her silly film From Justin to Kelly, starring her and the runner up. However, I am a huge fan of this song! I absolutely loved it!

So the song was written by Max Martin and Lukasz “Dr. Luke” Gottwald who actually wrote it for  Pink. She turned it down and it was then offered to Clarkson, in which she added more guitar and drums to counteract the light pop sound. It was number 2 on the Billboard Hot 100.

The music video is great, as after her boyfriend cheated on her and dumped her she ripped his place apart. Now I’m not one for vandalism, but finding out someone cheated on you will make anyone go crazy and pull this or a Daisy from Mystic Pizza.

It’s just a great song that truly captures how one feels after being betrayed by someone they loved and how angry they feel.

 

But just like The End by Silverstein just be careful how you react, its fine to sing about it, but if you actually participate in that kind of destruction just be prepared for the consequences.

So on to the lyrics and video!!!

Here’s the thing we started out friends
It was cool but it was all pretend
Yeah yeah
Since U Been Gone

You dedicated you took the time
Wasn’t long till I called you mine
Yeah Yeah
Since U Been Gone

And all you’d ever hear me say
Is how I pictured me with you
That’s all you’d ever hear me say

But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get
What I want
Since U Been Gone

How can I put it? You put me on
I even fell for that stupid love song
Yeah, yeah
Since U Been Gone

How come I’d never hear you say
I just wanna be with you
I guess you never felt that way

But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get (I get) what I want
Since U Been Gone

You had your chance you blew it
Out of sight, out of mind
Shut your mouth I just can’t take it
Again and again and again and again

Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get, I get what I want
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get (I get)
You should know (you should know)
That I get, I get what I want
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone

So the music video is super amazing!!!

So this song became super popular that A Day to Remember did a cover and copied the music video scene by scene. It’s pretty cool.

I have to say that I really enjoy the Kelly Clarkson version, that’s why I included it, but I like the A Day to Remember  a little bit better. I like how it has more of a rock than pop sound and I like the screamo as I think it really expresses the anger in the song. But however it is sung the song is still great.

And it teaches you an important thing:

Because never forget:

And:

But at the same time don’t get too caught up in anger and bitterness. After all:

To start the “Getting Over a Heartbreak Series” from the beginning, go to If It Means A Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to But It’s Alright

For more of my fav songs. go to Put Me Out

For more of my fav quotes, go to It’s All Jane Austen’s Fault

Gone Forever

So here is another post in the Heartbreak series. This one is:

13) Gone Forever by Three Days Grace

So I had heard some of Three Days Grace before I dated my ex. I remember their song Pain, when I was growing up but didn’t really get into the music until my ex lent me this CD and I listened to it, and of course loved it. Plus I love the lead singer and guitarist Adam Gontier. You know me and my weakness for tall, dark, handsome, long-haired guitarists.

Anyways the song covers what you think it would from the title. The song is about a guy who has ended a relationship, and while he is originally sad, he knows that it is better as that person is out of his life and gone forever.

I love this song coming after Missing You, as in Missing You the guy is sad and says that he isn’t missing her and happy that it ended, but at the same time it has a hint that he isn’t completely over the woman who broke his heart. In Gone Forever, the guy is stating that I’m much happier now that, that particular person is out of his life. However, when reading and hearing you can tell that he isn’t completely over the person. He is doing better, but still angry at his ex and hasn’t reached complete acceptance.

Don’t know what’s going on
Don’t know what went wrong
Feels like a hundred years I
Still can’t believe you’re gone
So I’ll stay up all night
With these bloodshot eyes
While these walls surround me with the story of our life

I feel so much better
Now that you’re gone forever
I tell myself that I don’t miss you at all
I’m not lying, denying that I feel so much better now
That you’re gone forever

Now things are coming clear
And I don’t need you here
And in this world around me
I’m glad you disappeared
So I’ll stay out all night
Get drunk and f*****’ fight
Until the morning comes I’ll
Forget about our life

I feel so much better
Now that you’re gone forever
I tell myself that I don’t miss you at all
I’m not lying, denying that I feel so much better now
That you’re gone forever

First time you screamed at me
I should have made you leave
I should have known it could be so much better
I hope you’re missing me
I hope I’ve made you see
That I’m gone forever

And now it’s coming clear
That I don’t need you here
And in this world around me
I’m glad you disappeared

I feel so much better
Now that you’re gone forever
I tell myself that I don’t miss you at all
I’m not lying, denying that I feel so much better now
That you’re gone forever
And now you’re gone forever
And now you’re gone forever

After all:

 To view the getting over heartbreak series fro the beginning, go to If It Means A Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Missing You

For more on Three Days Grace, go to Words That Describe Me Perfectly

For more on my fav songs, go to For a Pessimist, I’m Pretty Optimistic

For more of my fav quotes, go to Pizza Power

For more on broken promises, go to I Don’t Love You

For more on tall, dark, & handsome guys, go to Now You’re Gone

Missing You

So the next song in my getting over a heartbreak list is one of my favorite songs ever.

12) Missing You by John Waite

I just love this song so much:

Not only does it have great music and lyrics, but I feel like he just captures the emotions so well.

The song is about a breakup and how he is missing his ex but then gets over them and stops mising them. Other people may not believe him, but he’s getting over that person. My favorite part is at the end when he loudly sings out, I ain’t missing you, I ain’t missing you at all!

This song works well next, because now we are reaching the point when you are starting to get over the other person, but can be brought back again into thinking of them, but are consciously making the decision to not have them on your mind.

The  song is written by  John Waite and when it was released in 1984 it was  #1 on the Billboard Hot 100. The song has been covered by numerous artists, but Waite is the best (at least in my opinion).

The music video is also really cool. As it is told in a series of flashbacks as Waite is thinking of his past relationship, along with the present as he is trying to figure out what and where to go next. This song is super popular and has been in a ton of things: Warm Bodies, 22 Jump Street, One Tree Hill, Life As We Know It, Everybody Hates Chris, Selena, Miami Vice, etc.

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Every time I think of you
I always catch my breath
And I’m still standing here
And you’re miles away
And I’m wondering why you left

There’s a storm that’s raging
Through my frozen heart tonight
I hear your name in certain circles
And it always makes me smile
I spend my time thinking about you
And it’s almost driving me wild

And there’s a heart that’s breaking
Down this long distance line tonight
I ain’t missing you at all
Since you’ve been gone away
I ain’t missing you
No matter what I might say

There’s a message in the wild
And I’m sending you this signal tonight
You don’t know, how desperate I’ve become
And it looks like I’m losing this fight
In your world, I have no meaning
Though I’m trying hard to understand

And it’s my heart that’s breaking
Down this long distance line
But I ain’t missing you at all
Since you’ve been gone away
I ain’t missing you
No matter what my friends say

And there’s a message that I’m sending out
Like a telegraph to your soul
And if I can’t bridge this distance
Stop this heartbreak overload

I ain’t missing you at all
Since you’ve been gone away
I ain’t missing you
No matter what my friends say
I ain’t missing you
I ain’t missing you
I can lie to myself

And there’s a storm that’s raging
Through my frozen heart tonight
I ain’t missing you at all
Since you’ve been gone
I ain’t missing you
No matter what my friends say

Ain’t missing you
I ain’t missing you
I ain’t missing you
I keep lying to myself
Ain’t missing you
I ain’t missing you
I ain’t missing you

I’ve always felt that this song is super empowering

You are finally heading round that corner to complete and total acceptance and renewal!

To start at the beginning of the Heartbreak series, go to If It Means A Lot To You

To go to the previous post, go to For a Pessimist, I’m Pretty Optimistic

For more on John Waite, go to Say Something Human

For more of my favorite songs, go to Pizza Power

For more of my favorite quotes, go to I’ll Be Alright Without You by Journey

For more on ’80s music, go to Love Stinks 

For more on Julie Lessman, go to At the End of the Rainbow

For more on Warm Bodies, go to Say Something Human

Unbound (The Wild Ride)

So if you remember from my earlier post, Sadness Is…, I love Avenged Sevenfold aka A7x. It all started with my Ex as he was obssessed with this band and would play it all the time trying to get me into it as well. I grew to love the band and if you read my earlier post you can read all about how obsessed I become over their music, and how I still am now.

So, the first CD that Michael gave me was their Avenged Sevenfold album, aka “the White Album” as Michael would call it. It was an experimental album and I just adored it. I loved the singing, lyrics, the music, music videos, etc. In fact the first song I heard (and what started my love) was A Little Piece of Heaven and I don’t know if that means I’m crazy or just a great appreciator of music. Probably both. 😉 So for the first song I’m going to write on, as there will be many, many, many, many more to follow is:

Unbound (The Wild Ride)

So this song comes off the 2007 album, and as I have said before is a little different from their usual stuff; but just as amazing. It is a little more rock than metal, and even though quite a few people hate it I LOVE it. This is also the last album with the James “The Rev” Sullivan, before he died. 😦

So I couldn’t find too much info on the background of this song’s creation sadly, and unfortunately the only one I know who would have a plethora of knowledge is no longer in my life so I’m just going to do an analysis on my own.

So I think this is a song everyone can connect to. Here are the lyrics for all of you who haven’t had a chance to realize the addictiveness and necessity of A7x in your life.

Somewhere life is good and things go as they should
It’s hard to find but thats alright
Searching for the way, push harder everyday
It’s deep inside that shining light
But I’m scarred by barriers placed in my path, I’m scathed

This ride that takes me through life
Leads me into darkness but emerges into light
No one can ever slow me down, I’ll stay unbound

Sometimes when we’re young and always on the run
It gets so dark and I know that place
So don’t be too concerned, you’ve got a lot to learn
Well, so do I and we’ve got plenty of time
Don’t fall off the track yet with so many races to go, hold on

This ride that takes me through life
Leads me into darkness but emerges into light
No one can ever slow me down, I’ll stay unbound

Some live so wrong, with what we do is each his own
Living in fear, endless shame for countless years
I never lived in fear, I knew I’d die another day
I never viewed my life as something slipping away

Some live so wrong, with what we do is each his own
But living in fear, endless shame for countless years
I never lived in fear, I knew I’d die another day
I never viewed my life as something slipping away

There’s nothing here to take for granted
With each breath that we take
The hands of time strip youth from our bodies
And we fade, memories remain as time goes on

There’s nothing here to take for granted
With each breath that we take
The hands of time strip youth from our bodies
And we fade, memories remain as time goes on

So as we see in the beginning we see that main person is trying to live their life but crap just keeps piling on, they are trying to push through to the light, but every time it seems that more and more things are in their way. I think that is something we all can relate to as bad things never come in singles. This song actually helped me through my breakup. (Ironic huh. The song my ex gave helped me get past the pain)

But I love how even though this wild ride that takes you through pain and problems, will never defeat you. You’ll never be slowed down but stay Unbound.

The very Handsome Matthew Shadows! 🙂

Isn’t that awesome! It’s like even though everything is dark and painful, just keep going because you will emerge from it, nothing can hold you back. You will achieve you dreams, get over your pain and heartache, take on anything.

Then it goes on as the viewer takes on an older note telling someone younger the need to hold on. When things are happening everything is harder, more painful, and horrible; but it will get better in time. Hold on, there is plenty of time for you to overcome it, you have so much left to live for in your life. Don’t give up!

The next verse becomes powerful again as the singer says that living in fear is the wrong way to go. That living in fear causes people to do stupid things, to make the wrong decisions. We shouldn’t view our life as being a step closer to death, but that everyday gives us the opportunity to live.

We can’t take our life for granted. We have only so much time and we need to spend each day to the fullest.

 

For more on my favorite songs, go to I Always Feel Like Somebody’s Watching Me 

For more on Anne of Green Gables, go to We Share a Deep Connection

For more of my thoughts on heavy metal, go to Pizza Delivery

I’ll Be Alright Without You

So since Michael and I broke up I’ve been looking for a song to listen to to kind of help me through this, as music is always a great solace in any time of trouble. (It’s funny it has only been a week but it seems so much longer) I mean I instantly thought of Breaking Up is Hard to Do, I Will Survive or Missing You; but those just didn’t really seem to be able to capture how I was feeling. So I was thinking I should check out this playlist I made for my friend and see what spoke to me. About seven months ago my friend Jane broke up with her boyfriend, and I made her a care package full of food, games, some lotion/toiletry stuff, etc.; but I also made her a CD full of songs to help her through her breakup that I titled “Heartbreak”. Its actually kind of ironic because after I made it I was going to delete it, but thought hey I should save that in case I need to play it for someone else later (little did I know that was going to be me). So the music ranges from all kinds of songs starting out sad but moving on to things getting better and ending of course in I Will Survive. Maybe I will do that for another post, my recommended playlist for heartbreak, always a possibility. Anyways, so I was listening to it and found the perfect song that really captures how I’m feeling. I’ll Be Alright Without You by Journey.

I’ve actually been playing it like nonstop (with headphones as not to annoy my roommate). It’s such an amazing song with really great lyrics.

So unlike my other musical posts I couldn’t find a whole lot of background info on the song. It was released in 1986 on their Raised On Radio album. The song was #7 on the Adult Contemporary chart, #26 on the Mainstream Rock chart and  #14 in the Billboard Hot 100. It was written by Jonathan Cain, Steve Perry, and Neal Schon. It is one of their most known songs, because of course not only is it amazing but because of the content.

So like I said before the lyrics are really beautiful and truly express trying to get over someone.

I’ve been thinking ’bout the times
You walked out on me
There were moments I’d believe, you were there
Do I miss you, or am I lying to my self again

I do these things…
(It’s all because of you)
I keep holding on, but I’ll try
(try not to think of you)
Love don’t leave me lonely
I’ll be alright without you

There’ll be someone else…I keep tellin’ myself
I’ll be alright without you
Oh…love’s an empty face, I can’t replace
(you don’t need it)

People wonderin’ why we broke apart
The great pretender here I go again
These things I do
(It’s all because of you)

I’ll keep holdin’ but I’ll try
(try not to think of you)
All I wanted was to hold you
I’ll be alright without you
There’ll be someone else, I keep tellin’ myself

I’ll be alright without you
Love’s an empty face…Oh I’ve got to replace
I’ll be alright without you
There’ll be someone else, I keep tellin’ myself

I’ll be alright without you
Oh…love’s an empty place, I can still see your face
I’ll be alright

Breaking up is just hard to do (if it wasn’t there wouldn’t be a song titled that), and this just expresses exactly what I keep telling myself. Its going to be okay, I was fine before June, and I will be fine now in Dec. It’s just hard because all I wanted was to hold him and be with him. And people wonder why we broke apart, I do as well, and I just don’t know. I don’t know what happened. I’m just trying to move on and not think of him, but of course that is always easier said then done. (I don’t remember ever speaking in so many song titles. It reminds me of the Archie comic when Betty does that). It’s weird because it comes in waves. Sometimes I feel just fine and like I used to, getting back into the old routine and everything. But other times I don’t know what sparks it, but I just hurt so much and want the pain to stop.

And I know that I’ll be okay, and that later I’ll find someone else, the only problem is that I don’t want someone else, I want him. Things were easier when I was the Ice Queen. Well I know the only thing that can end this is time. Time, chocolate, ice-cream, and Clint Eastwood (Hey he’s single, it could happen).

I changed the wallpaper on my computer to a young, shirtless, Clint Eastwood. That always makes me feel better. 😀

I mean look at this man! Can you blame me for being crazy about him?

Anyways here is the song, happy listening.

To check out my last musical post go to Jump (For My Love)