So here we are another step in the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series. As you recall from Gone Forever, Put Me Out, and But It’s Alright; we still are in that angry at my ex phase. So here we are with:
16) Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson.
Now I have always liked Kelly Clarkson, although I have never really thought of myself as being a major fan. I remember when Kelly Clarkson won American Idol (yep back when the show was good and the winners actually went on to do something). I even watched her silly film From Justin to Kelly, starring her and the runner up. However, I am a huge fan of this song! I absolutely loved it!
So the song was written by Max Martin and Lukasz “Dr. Luke” Gottwald who actually wrote it for Pink. She turned it down and it was then offered to Clarkson, in which she added more guitar and drums to counteract the light pop sound. It was number 2 on the Billboard Hot 100.
The music video is great, as after her boyfriend cheated on her and dumped her she ripped his place apart. Now I’m not one for vandalism, but finding out someone cheated on you will make anyone go crazy and pull this or a Daisy from Mystic Pizza.
It’s just a great song that truly captures how one feels after being betrayed by someone they loved and how angry they feel.
But just like The End by Silverstein just be careful how you react, its fine to sing about it, but if you actually participate in that kind of destruction just be prepared for the consequences.
So on to the lyrics and video!!!
Here’s the thing we started out friends
It was cool but it was all pretend
Yeah yeah
Since U Been Gone
You dedicated you took the time
Wasn’t long till I called you mine
Yeah Yeah
Since U Been Gone
And all you’d ever hear me say
Is how I pictured me with you
That’s all you’d ever hear me say
But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get
What I want
Since U Been Gone
How can I put it? You put me on
I even fell for that stupid love song
Yeah, yeah
Since U Been Gone
How come I’d never hear you say
I just wanna be with you
I guess you never felt that way
But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get (I get) what I want
Since U Been Gone
You had your chance you blew it
Out of sight, out of mind
Shut your mouth I just can’t take it
Again and again and again and again
Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get, I get what I want
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get (I get)
You should know (you should know)
That I get, I get what I want
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone
So the music video is super amazing!!!
So this song became super popular that A Day to Remember did a cover and copied the music video scene by scene. It’s pretty cool.
I have to say that I really enjoy the Kelly Clarkson version, that’s why I included it, but I like the A Day to Remember a little bit better. I like how it has more of a rock than pop sound and I like the screamo as I think it really expresses the anger in the song. But however it is sung the song is still great.
And it teaches you an important thing:
Because never forget:
And:
But at the same time don’t get too caught up in anger and bitterness. After all:
To start the “Getting Over a Heartbreak Series” from the beginning, go to If It Means A Lot to You
So here is another post in the Heartbreak series. This one is:
13) Gone Forever by Three Days Grace
So I had heard some of Three Days Grace before I dated my ex. I remember their song Pain, when I was growing up but didn’t really get into the music until my ex lent me this CD and I listened to it, and of course loved it. Plus I love the lead singer and guitarist Adam Gontier. You know me and my weakness for tall, dark, handsome, long-haired guitarists.
Anyways the song covers what you think it would from the title. The song is about a guy who has ended a relationship, and while he is originally sad, he knows that it is better as that person is out of his life and gone forever.
I love this song coming after Missing You, as in Missing You the guy is sad and says that he isn’t missing her and happy that it ended, but at the same time it has a hint that he isn’t completely over the woman who broke his heart. In Gone Forever, the guy is stating that I’m much happier now that, that particular person is out of his life. However, when reading and hearing you can tell that he isn’t completely over the person. He is doing better, but still angry at his ex and hasn’t reached complete acceptance.
Don’t know what’s going on
Don’t know what went wrong
Feels like a hundred years I
Still can’t believe you’re gone
So I’ll stay up all night
With these bloodshot eyes
While these walls surround me with the story of our life
I feel so much better
Now that you’re gone forever
I tell myself that I don’t miss you at all
I’m not lying, denying that I feel so much better now
That you’re gone forever
Now things are coming clear
And I don’t need you here
And in this world around me
I’m glad you disappeared
So I’ll stay out all night
Get drunk and f*****’ fight
Until the morning comes I’ll
Forget about our life
I feel so much better
Now that you’re gone forever
I tell myself that I don’t miss you at all
I’m not lying, denying that I feel so much better now
That you’re gone forever
First time you screamed at me
I should have made you leave
I should have known it could be so much better
I hope you’re missing me
I hope I’ve made you see
That I’m gone forever
And now it’s coming clear
That I don’t need you here
And in this world around me
I’m glad you disappeared
I feel so much better
Now that you’re gone forever
I tell myself that I don’t miss you at all
I’m not lying, denying that I feel so much better now
That you’re gone forever
And now you’re gone forever
And now you’re gone forever
So here is another installment in the series of “Songs to Help You Get Over Heartbreak”. So we have moved past the crying and weeping, past regretfulness and love stinks, and now are at realization that it is a part of life. It happened once, and will again.
With this realization, it doesn’t always mean that you are over it (everyone moves on at their own speed) but that you are closer to being completely over it. This next song is:
9) Chin Up Kid by Forever the Sickest Kids
So this is another band I got into after listening to the Vans Warped Tour 2013 CD. Now I listened to this song over and over and over and over and over again, when I was dealing with my breakup. I really like it because of the lyrics, how true they are; along with having being a really upbeat song that makes you feel good. Plus their music video is amazing!!! You are going to love it!!!
The band wrote the song for those specific reasons.
“It’s a feeling that anyone who’s been through heartbreak will recognize. ‘Chin Up Kid’ can be a very relatable song to most. We wrote this song about keeping your head up through heartbreak and trying times. Young love can come and go before you realize you even had it. We hope this song motivates the listener to find inner strength to keep moving on and pressing forward.”
So here are the amazing lyrics.
Everybody hurts every once in a while
And everybody loses sleep with a broken heart
Good things come and go but kid you’ll learn how to cope
When something feels right, be ready to let it go
I remember hurting her and her hurting me I remember losing sleep, she was haunting my dreams It’s alright, chin up kid, it’ll all be fine There’s not a wound in this world that won’t heal with time
You’re just a boy
She’s just a girl
You’ll break her heart
She’ll wreck your world
But life goes on, the ending’s the starting line
Chin up, press on, you will survive
Young love that lasts is hard to find
So chin up, press on, you will survive
Gotta learn to be OK with being alone
You gotta learn to love yourself before you love someone else
It’s hard to be patient
While she’s keeping you waiting
I remember loving her, her not loving me And I remember losing sleep, she was haunting my dreams And it’s alright, chin up kid, it’ll all be fine There’s not a wound in this world that won’t heal with time
You’re just a boy
She’s just a girl
You’ll break her heart
She’ll wreck your world
But life goes on, the ending’s the starting line
Chin up, press on, you will survive
Young love that lasts is hard to find
So chin up, press on, you will survive
And everything will be alright And everything will be just fine And everything will be alright Yeah!
You’re just a boy She’s just a girl You’ll break her heart She’ll wreck your world But life goes on, the ending’s the starting line Chin up, press on, you will survive Young love that lasts is hard to find So chin up, press on, you will survive
Life goes on, the ending’s the starting line Chin up, press on, you will survive Young love that lasts is hard to find So chin up, press on, you will survive
You will survive!
No matter how painful something is you will survive and get over it. It just takes time.
Yep, you’ve guessed, its another song on our heartbreak list. This one is:
8) That’s What You Get by Paramore
So Paramore was a band suggested by my ex, but I never got a chance to listen to it as we broke up before I reached the CD in the large stack.
The music video was created at a time when the band almost broke up as they were having personal issues with each other. (Kinda ironic huh?) The music video is of two lovers and are having a great time when the boyfriend meets someone and lives his girlfriend in the dust. Very sad.
I actually don’t like the video as much as the lyrics. It just describes how you feel after being dumped.
No sir, well I don’t wanna be the blame, not anymore.
It’s your turn, so take a seat we’re settling the final score.
And why do we like to hurt so much?
I can’t decide
You have made it harder just to go on
And why, all the possibilities, well I was wrong
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
I drowned out all my sense with the sound of its beating.
And that’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
I wonder, how am I supposed to feel when you’re not here.
‘Cause I burned every bridge I ever built when you were here.
I still try, holding onto silly things, I never learn
Oh why, all the possibilities I’m sure you’ve heard.
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
I drowned out all my sense with the sound of its beating (beating)
And that’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
Pain make your way to me, to me.
And I’ll always be just so inviting.
If I ever start to think straight,
This heart will start a riot in me,
Let’s start, start, hey!
Why do we like to hurt so much?
Oh why do we like to hurt so much?
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa!
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
That’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
Now I can’t trust myself with anything but this,
And that’s what you get when you let your heart win, whoa.
Now even though you may feel like this:
Remember:
Don’t worry you will find the right person who will appreciate you.
Here we are again, another song in the heartbreak series.
6) Good or Bad by Action Item
So I got into Action Item, after I heard the Vans Warped Tour 2013 Compilation album, and loved them!! (This song is actually off that album.) I couldn’t find too much background on the song, so I’m heading right to the lyrics!
I really like this song because it expresses that questioning you had about ever starting the relationship that broke your heart. Was it good or bad? Should you have ever even dated that person and missed out on all the fun times? Are the good memories worth the pain of breakup? In the end, is there really any answer? Is it good or bad; or is it something in between?
Is it good or bad? To fall in love so fast
It heals until it hurts
It’s a gift and it’s a curse
Oh it’s bittersweet
What you do to me
Is it okay, to be scared but still feel safe?
Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah
Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah
I’m not a saint, no, and I don’t claim to be, yeah
Love will make you reckless, wild and free, yeah
What’s a heart if it doesn’t get used?
What’s the point? What’s the use?
So you said show me something new, things I never knew…
Like when we were kids, take me somewhere I’ve never been
Is it good or bad? To fall in love so fast
It heals until it hurts
It’s a gift and it’s a curse
Oh it’s bittersweet
What you do to me
Is it okay, to be scared but still feel safe?
Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah
Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah
So I took your hand, we ran through the street lights
And when you stopped me, that was when I realized
That I can learn everything from your lips
About you and me kissing, being told every secret kept
Everything you did you broken the same
Cause love just leads to pain
Is it good or bad? To fall in love so fast
It heals until it hurts
It’s a gift and it’s a curse
Oh it’s bittersweet
What you do to me
Is it okay, to be scared but still feel safe?
That’s right folks, its a another song in the heartbreak series. So after the initial sadness of a breakup, there is the anger that its over, only to have sadness come back, taking root in none other than the Heartbreak Hotel.
Day 5) Heartbreak Hotel
So this is a famous Elvis song, as I don’t really need tell you, I’m sure you know. The song was written by Tommy Durden and Mae Boren Axton. The song in itself is sad but the story behind it is even sadder. The lyrics are actually based on a suicide of a man who jumped from a hotel window. How horrible.
The single topped Billboard‘s Top 100 chart for seven weeks, and became Presley’s first million dollar seller, even going double platinum. It became a staple of Presley’s repertoire in live appearances, and was last performed by him on May 29, 1977 at the Civic Center in Baltimore, Maryland.
Heartbreak Hotel recieved many awards through its lifetime: in 1995 it was inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame; in 2004 Rolling Stone magazine named it one of the “500 Greatest Songs of All Time“; and included it in their list “500 Songs that Shaped Rock and Roll”.
So the whole song is about a “Heartbreak Hotel” that is open for those who have recently had their heartbroken and need to be around others who are miserable to help them through it. It’s kind of that misery loves company deal. I liked listening to it, because it felt like others understood your suffering and were there for you.
Well, since my baby left me,
I found a new place to dwell.
It’s down at the end of lonely street
at Heartbreak Hotel.
You make me so lonely baby,
I get so lonely,
I get so lonely I could die.
And although it’s always crowded,
you still can find some room.
Where broken hearted lovers
do cry away their gloom.
You make me so lonely baby,
I get so lonely,
I get so lonely I could die.
Well, the Bell hop’s tears keep flowin’,
and the desk clerk’s dressed in black.
Well they been so long on lonely street
They ain’t ever gonna look back.
You make me so lonely baby,
I get so lonely,
I get so lonely I could die.
Hey now, if your baby leaves you,
and you got a tale to tell.
Just take a walk down lonely street
to Heartbreak Hotel.
So if you remember my post back in Dec, I’ll Be Alright Without You, I talked about creating a post that listed my favorite songs to help one get over heartache/a breakup; namely what songs really helped me. Well previously I wasn’t in the best place to do it, but now that it has been like eight months since we’ve broken up I’m doing great and can totally handle it.
At least for the most part, like Audrey says in Sabrina, even if you are over things certain songs can bring back memories.
The other reason that I have decided to do this list is that I just had a friend go through a breakup and was really struggling, so I promised to put together a compilation for her that helped me through everything.
So actually instead of doing them in all one post, I decided to do a series of posts, weaving them through everything else, so that it isn’t one straight sobfest. I mean imagine trying to storm through constantly sad things?
After all:
So that brings us to the first song on this list
1) If It Means A Lot to You
So when my ex and I first started dating he gave me a bunch of CDs to listen to. And one of them was this CD by A Day to Remember. It was pretty fitting as I was away from Michael and a lot of the songs expressed how I felt about us being apart. In fact I used to listen to this song all the time pre & post-breakup. (I’m not sure if that is romantic or pathetic? Hopefully romantic) So the series is a little scattered, not all songs focus on being “homesick”, however If It Means A Lot to You does. I actually think it is the most powerful song on the whole list, and my favorite (as I connected the most to it).
This song took me the longest to write. It took almost a year, but it was another song that kinda stumped me. I really needed this song to say exactly what I wanted, and I finally got it there. We didn’t know if it would be on the record right up until the end of recording. I wrote it separate from the band, and I wasn’t comfortable changing things. It all worked out in the end, though. I think it’s the perfect end to this record.
– Jeremy McKinnon
So the premise of the song is that a guy has to be on the road away from home, and while he doesn’t want to leave his girlfriend, he has to go. He talks about how he knows things are hard and getting rough, but if she could just wait a little longer then he knows everything will be okay, that they will be able to work through everything. She, however, can’t wait. She can’t do it and breaks up with him. It is a heartwrenching song and even more so because it described EXACTLY how I was feeling.
So the song starts off with the guy singing to the girl that he hopes everything is going well with her and that he just needs to hear from her, anything to get him by the time they are apart. This was totally how I felt, because a few weeks before we broke up Michael stopped texting and calling me. I would ask him when he was free to talk/skype as I missed him and he would tell me he was “busy” ,”didn’t know his schedule”, etc. I mean I found some texts that I thought I deleted, but my phone saved (grr) and its pretty pathetic my responses. “Well just let me know when you are free, I miss you” and “Okay we can try to talk later”, etc. I’d like to say aliens momentarily took over my brain, but that’s not true. It’s hard to accept that someone you cared for and cared for you has just stopped liking you. You kind of go into denial about it. Of course I know now that I’m in my right mind, I should have seen the signs. After all:
So back to the lyrics and the song
And hey darling,
I hope you’re good tonight.
And I know you don’t feel right when I’m leaving.
Yeah, I want it but no, I don’t need it.
Tell me something sweet to get me by,
‘Cause I can’t come back home till they’re singing
La, la la la, la la la, Till everyone is singing
The next part is all about how he knows that if she can just wait a little longer, that he knows everything will work out and be okay. I wasn’t originally going to go home for Thanksgiving break as my aunt was getting married and my whole family was going to the opposite end of the state to do that, and Michael said he couldn’t get the time off to join my family. I however convinced my parents to take me home instead of right back to school as I wanted to see him, as I too thought that if he could wait until I got home we would be able to work through whatever was going on. That everything would be okay.
If you can wait till I get home, Then I swear to you that we can make this last. (La la la) If you can wait till I get home, Then I swear come tomorrow, this will all be in our past. Well it might be for the best.
So then we have the girlfriend’s response that she just can’t do it anymore, that she needs him. As much as I hate what she does to the guy at least she gave a reason for why she was breaking up, I just got the “I don’t think you’re my future bride” response, which was like pulling teeth trying to get him to say anything why he broke it off.
And hey sweetie, Well I need you here tonight, And I know that you don’t wanna be leaving me Yeah, you want it, but I can’t help it. I just feel complete when you’re by my side, But I know you can’t come home till they’re singing
La, la la la, la la la, Till everyone is singing. La, la la la, la la la.
If you can wait till I get home, Then I swear to you that we can make this last. (La la la) If you can wait till I get home, Then I swear come tomorrow, this will all be in our past. Well it might be for the best.
So in the next part she tells him she can’t wait its over. And he freaks out, like is this really truly happening? How can this be my life? Let me say that everytime I hear that part my heart stops just like when Michael said he wanted it to be over.
And he is in shock at how this can acutually be happening. Yep, I felt that too. And just like the singer in this song, I did not want to be “just friends”. I personlly don’t believe and can’t understand how one can go from being so much more to “just friends”? How can you watch the person who just rejected you pick up their life and move on, while you sit in heartbreak and try very slowly to work past the pain? I sure don’t know.
You know you can’t give me what I need. And even though you mean so much to me, I can’t wait through everything, Is this really happening? I swear I’ll never be happy again. And don’t you dare say we can just be friends. I’m not some boy that you can sway. We knew it’d happen eventually.
La, la la la, la la la, Now everybody’s singing. La, la la la, la la la, Now everybody’s singing. La, la la la, la la la, (If you can wait till I get home) Now everybody’s singing. La, la la la, la la la, (Then I swear we can make this last) Now everybody’s singing.
La, la la la, la la la, (If you can wait till I get home) Now everybody’s singing. La, la la la, la la la, (Then I swear we can make this last) Now everybody’s singing. La
Now some of you may be wondering why I started off with such a sad song instead of a more empowering or forget you song. Well I believe that you need to allow yourself to grieve the end and that listening to something sad helps make things get better.
So even though this song (and Hey There Delilah) still make me sad as the feels are just so much, it was still hepful listening to this over and over to help voice my feelings about the breakup.
So that’s the first of many songs, and they do get empowering, you just have to wait for it.
