It Sucks to Be Lady Elliot

So everyone out there has dated a minimum of one total jerk in their lifetime, some of us more.

And girls

Male or female-you have met someone they seem great and wonderful. You begin dating, you get caught into love or extreme like:

Then things go bad, you see them for what they are. Some break up, some try to change them, some get divorced, etc-Angry, upset, wishing it never happened, thinking how could they have gotten involved.

Some people stay-and for a variety of reasons. Maybe they don’t feel they can leave, maybe some are abused and don’t see a way out, some think they can make it work, some want to stay for the kids, there are a thousand reasons and for those who stay and don’t leave-it sucks.

It sucks!

Leading us to today’s topic: Lady Elliot, mother of Elizabeth, Anne, and Mary; and wife of Sir Walter Elliot.

Ugh, this guy!

Poor Lady Elliot-she’s intelligent, logical, sensible, kind and caring-how the heck did she end up with Sir Elliot?

We all know how-as we have all been there at least once. She was young, he was handsome, he seemed great, and she married him, only to find out afterwards that she made a mistake.

It’s funny, but I never realized this before, but Lady Elliot’s story could be a lot of Austen heroines if they had married the other person rather than the one they did. Fanny and Henry, Emma and Frank, Anne and William Elliot, etc. Also like what happens with Mrs. Tilney and General Tilney in Northanger Abbey

But Lady Elliot is one classy lady. She realized that she married wrong, but did her best to do what she could to make the best of her situation, a real Charlotte Lucas.

She concealed his faults, managed the estate, and found a filled life with her friends, children, and other duties; not a happy life but a filled one.

In fact, I really recommend checking out “One Fair Claim” by Christina Morland from Dangerous to Know: Jane Austen’s Rakes & Gentlemen RoguesI really thought she captured what happened and how Lady Elliot “saw” Sir Walter one way, only to have her illusions destroyed when she realized what a jerkwad she married. 

It is very Rebecca  as well. Man I keep referencing it, I need to review it. But which to do first, the book or movie?

Moving on…

Anyways, sorry for that rabbit trail.

Yes, poor Lady Elliot. And then when she passes away she has to leave her children to be raised by that Neanderthal. Thank goodness for her friend, Lady Russell, but more on her later.

Yes, poor Lady Elliot.

For more Persuasion, go to Austen Avengers Assemble

For more on Lady Elliot, go to Dangerous to Know: Jane Austen’s Rakes & Gentlemen Rogues

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The Power of Love: Romance is in the Air, Part VI

Well with tomorrow being the first of February, you know what that means:

Yes, the time has come for me to choose 14 romantic moments from film and TV:

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So whether you are single:

Or in a relationship:

Whether you love Valentine’s day:

Or hate Valentine’s Day:

There is sure to be something you will love on this list. So get ready for the power of Love:

and The Power of Love by Huey Lewis & the News

To start Romance is in the Air from the beginning, go to Boom Box of Love: Say Anything (1989)

To start Romance is in the Air: Part II, go to Language of Love: Love Actually (2003)

To start Romance is in the Air: Part III, go to I Can See Your Beauty: The Breakfast Club (1985)

To start Romance is in the Air: Part IV, go to I Can’t Pretend, I Have to Be: Casual Sex? (1988)

To start Romance is in Air: Part V, go to I Did It for You: Edward Scissorhands (1990)

How Sweet It Is To Be Loved By You: Romance is in the Air, Part V

Well with tomorrow being the first of February, you know what that means:

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Yes my annual countdown to Valentine’s Day, with 14 romantic moments from film or TV shows.

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So whether you are single:

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Or in a relationship:

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Whether you love Valentine’s Day:

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Or hate it:

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Or just want to eat the candy:

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Valentine’s candy also doesn’t count.

There is sure to be at least one moment on the list to make you smile:

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So get ready for some real sweet moments coming your way.

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For the 2013 countdown, go to Boom Box of Love: Say Anything (1989)

For the 2014 countdown, go to Language of Love: Love Actually (2003)

For the 2015 countdown, go to I Can See Your Beauty: The Breakfast Club (1985)

For the 2016 countdown, go to I Can’t Pretend, I Have to Be: Casual Sex? (1988)

Never Stop

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Yep. After all:

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Yep:

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For more Relationship Rules, go to I’m Okay With Waiting: Fateful, Awkward (2011)

For more quotes, go to Just Like the Beginning

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For more Relationship Rules, go to Mawwiage. Mawwiage is What Bwings Us Togethew Today For more on Marilyn Monroe, go to A Fashion Statement For more quotes, go to Past is Past

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So what do I look for in a potential life mate?

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No I’m just kidding. That’s not what defines marriage for me. This is:

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Just kidding. Marriage is more than shared interests. There is so much more than needs to be a part of it.

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And of course, being a Christian, I’m also looking for this:

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Yep, eventually I’ll find the right guy.

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And I believe when I do find him, we’ll stay together forever.

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For more on relationships, go to It’s Not Old…It’s Vintage

For more on The Princess Bride, go to A Pirate’s Life is the Life for Me

For more on Star Wars, go to A Very Merry Star Wars Christmas

For more Relationship Rules, go to Growing Up is Hard to Do

For more quotes, go to These Shoes Were Made for Walking

It’s Not Old…It’s Vintage

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Today love seems so convoluted. You’re supposed to have multiple boyfriends vying for your attention.

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What’s wrong with dating one person and seeing if they are right?

Or how about every relationship has to be about sex, in fact “love experts” recommend “sleeping around” to figure out what you like. A lot say a one-night stand “empowers” you.

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Whatever happened to getting in relationships because you are trying to find your soul mate. And getting to actually know that person by just spending time with them without all these added pressures of having to have sex with them and move in together. If you don’t do those things there is something “wrong” with you. Why does it have to be like that? Why can’t it be like this?

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Whatever happened to romance?

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I don’t care what others say, I want to fall in love vintage style.

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Let’s bring these back.

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I sometimes feel as if I’ll never meet a guy who feels the same way…

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But I refuse to settle for the second best

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And eventually I’ll find him.

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For more on being old fashioned, go to The Ugly Truth

For more Anne of Green Gables, go to Imagination

For more Sarah Dessen, go to All By Myself