Credit Where Credit is Due

Have you ever taken credit for something you didn’t do or was out of your hands to create?

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It’s not to say that you were trying to steal someone else’s thoughts, creation, or work. It’s just you are trying to take full credit for something you really had no true control over.

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Well then you are just like Emma when she believes she is the one who brought Miss Taylor and Mr. Weston together.

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Now a lot of people laugh at how conceited Emma is in this scene, but this is actually something a lot of people fall into.

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For all you sports fans, think about the last game you saw in which your team won because “you wore a special shirt or socks”. Or how about the fact you won a prize because you chose your “lucky number”? Or the time you won a game because you “blew luck into the dice”? Or getting a certain space in Monopoly because you “claimed” it? Or the time you passed a test because you wore a “lucky” piece of clothing? Yep, we humans love to claim that some act we did caused a realignment in the cosmos and brought about something we desired.

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In reality, none of our little “lucky” things or claims did anything to affect it. It was out of our control the whole time, but we feel better having done “something”. It makes us feel in control.

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In Emma, Emma Woodhouse’s governess and best friend has just married the widower Mr. Weston. Emma is convinced that she is the one who made it all happen, as four years ago when everyone said Mr. Weston would never marry, she was determined to prove them all wrong.

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However, there is a huge problem with this thought. In thinking that she did everything, Emma is totally disregarding the feelings of her mentor and Mr. Weston. Because she was lucky in her guess, she believes she is the one who made all the decisions, a true puppet master.

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I don't think so

Sorry Emma, that’s not how it works. People are like cats, they don’t do something because you want them to. They do what they want to do.

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If they want to be together, they will try to get together. But if they don’t want to get together, then it’s not going to work out.

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As Mr. Knightley says it:

“I do not understand what you mean by ‘success’, said Mr Knightley. “Success supposes endeavor…But if, which I rather imagine, your making the match, as you call it, means only your planning it, your saying to yourself one idle day, ‘I think it would be a very good thing for Miss Taylor if Mr. Weston were to marry her,’ and saying it again to yourself every now and then afterwards, why do you talk of success? Where is your merit? You made a lucky guess; and that is all that can be said.”

Unfortunately, like most people, Emma won’t listen to him as she is adamant that her thoughts and suppositions had a true effect on the real world.

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And is now determined to set her sights on someone else, fixing them up and proving to Mr. Knightley that she is in control.

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And how will this turn out for Emma? Keep following to find out!

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For more on Emma, go to All By Myself

Good or Bad

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Here we are again, another song in the heartbreak series.

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6) Good or Bad by Action Item

So I got into Action Item, after I heard the Vans Warped Tour 2013 Compilation album, and loved them!! (This song is actually off that album.) I couldn’t find too much background on the song, so I’m heading right to the lyrics!

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I really like this song because it expresses that questioning you had about ever starting the relationship that broke your heart. Was it good or bad? Should you have ever even dated that person and missed out on all the fun times? Are the good memories worth the pain of breakup? In the end, is there really any answer? Is it good or bad; or is it something in between?

Is it good or bad? To fall in love so fast
It heals until it hurts
It’s a gift and it’s a curse
Oh it’s bittersweet
What you do to me
Is it okay, to be scared but still feel safe?

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Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah
Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah

I’m not a saint, no, and I don’t claim to be, yeah
Love will make you reckless, wild and free, yeah
What’s a heart if it doesn’t get used?
What’s the point? What’s the use?
So you said show me something new, things I never knew…
Like when we were kids, take me somewhere I’ve never been

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Is it good or bad? To fall in love so fast

It heals until it hurts
It’s a gift and it’s a curse
Oh it’s bittersweet
What you do to me
Is it okay, to be scared but still feel safe?

Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah
Is it good or bad, yeah yeah yeah

So I took your hand, we ran through the street lights
And when you stopped me, that was when I realized
That I can learn everything from your lips
About you and me kissing, being told every secret kept
Everything you did you broken the same
Cause love just leads to pain

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Is it good or bad? To fall in love so fast
It heals until it hurts
It’s a gift and it’s a curse
Oh it’s bittersweet
What you do to me
Is it okay, to be scared but still feel safe?

Is it good or bad?

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Take these words to heart:

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To go to the beginning of the Heartbreak series, go to If It Means A Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Heartbreak Hotel

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For other posts you might be interested in:

For more songs I like, go to Now You’re Gone

For more of my favorite quotes, go to Girl on Fire

For more on Audrey Hepburn, go to Your Secret is Safe With Me

For more on James Joyce, check out At the End of the Rainbow