Past is Past

One must not remain in the past, or constantly keep looking back. Those people are different now, and you are different now.

After all:

Do you really want to be stuck in the past?

For more on moving on from the past, go to You Only Get One

For more on Lewis Carroll, go to Can’t Go Back

For more of my favorite quotes, go to A Real Individual

You’re My Hero: Why Did I Get Married? (2007)

Romantic Moment #9

Why Did I Get Married? (2007)

Why Did I Get Married? is a film directed by and starring Tyler Perry. Just like Diary of a Mad Black Woman, this film is based on his play of the same name.

This film is about four couples, all friends from college, who are going on their annual retreat to not only work on their marriage but catch up on what’s been going on in each other’s lives.

• The first couple is the over-worked, lawyer Dianne (Sharon Leal) and her husband Dr. Terry (Tyler Perry). The two have been arguing because Dianne didn’t want to time off from work to go on the retreat. In fact she doesn’t want to take off ANY time for anything. He hardly ever sees her or spends time with her. She is hardly involved with their daughter as well as she is always working. Terry wants more kids, but not only is Dianne hardly ever around, but when she is, she is too tired to have sex with him
• Then we have Angela (Tasha Smith) and Marcus (Michael Jai White). Marcus used to be a famous football player and has two kids with another woman. He married Angela and helped finance her first beauty salon of which he now works at. She has gone to make tons of money, including created her own line of hair products. These two are constantly arguing.
• Then we have perfect Patricia (Janet Jackson) and her husband Gavin (Malik Yoba). Patricia is a professor and author of the hit book Why Did I Get Married? Everything seems great about them, except the two are a bit stilted.
• Lastly we have the overweight Sheila (Jill Scott) and her rude, arrogant, jerk of a husband Mike (Richard T. Jones). They are taking a flight to the retreat, taking along their friend Trina (Denise Boutte). Yes, bringing a single girl to a couples retreat? Like that’s not odd. Anyways, Sheila doesn’t fit in her seat, and Trina tries to give hers up, but Mike kicks her off the plane and tells her to drive there.

While there Dianne falls asleep alone, ignoring Terry. Her assistant calls and Terry tells her to leave them alone for the week as Dianne is on vacation. Angela and Marcus are fighting again and he asks Terry for help with something. That night Mike is seen, by Angela, sneaking into Trina’s room. Sheila was heading to Colorado but the night was was too dark and snowy, so she pulls off on the side of the road. There Troy (Lamman Rucker), the sheriff, spots her and brings her to the station to spend the night.

The next day Sheila arrives at the retreat and brings Troy to get with Trina, upsetting Mike. They invite Troy to dinner and that’s when all hell breaks loose.

• It turns out that Dianne had her tubes tied as she doesn’t want anymore kids. She never told Terry as he wants more. She has been avoiding having sex as she doesn’t want to tell him about it.
• Dianne also found out that Terry had a DNA test done on his daughter as he wasn’t sure she was really his. Dianne is always busy, so he was wondering if she really got pregnant by someone else.
• Marcus has been cheating on Angela with his ex-girlfriend, and thought he got a STD from her.
• Angela cheated on Marcus, with Walter, got an STD, and gave it to Marcus.
• Gavin blames Patricia for the death of their son.
• Patricia still blames herself for the death of their son.
• Mike is cheating on Sheila with Trina.

Everyone tries to fix their mistakes, but Mike wants a divorce. Sheila becomes upset with Mike and whaps him on the head.

After that they all go their separate ways. Sheila stays in town with sheriff Troy, as he gets her a job at the general store. All the remaining couples go through a lot of changes and discussions to find out why did they get married? And do they want to stay married?

***Most Romantic Moment***

So after the whole finding out your husband was cheating on you with your best friend, along with all the abuses he laid on you throughout the years- Sheila was having a really bad time. Troy is really there for her, providing her with a job and a place to stay while she goes through a divorce and has to figure out what to do with her life now. In fact, the two begin an amazing friendship and at one point Troy wants it to move to dating, but Sheila says no. She is scared since he made everything so much better in her life, that she is falling in love with him for his help only. Troy agrees, and the two decide to take it slow, a little at a time.

Isn’t that amazing! He is so perfect and just perfect for her! He doesn’t care about her past and he sees all the good in her, past the insecurities and her inhibitions.

She gets strong, moves along, and finds the perfect man of her dreams.

To start Romance is in the Air: Part III from the beginning, go to I Can See Your Beauty: The Breakfast Club (1985)

For the previous post, go to Love Makes You Do Crazy Things: Hercules (1997)

For more on Why Did I Get Married, go to Part VIII: The Little Movie Line List

For more Tyler Perry, go to What Have We Done to Each Other?: Gone Girl (2014)

For more of my favorite quotes, go to You Look Beautiful Just the Way You Are: How to Marry a Millionaire (1953)

For more films based on a play, go to The Perfect Murder: Dial “M” for Murder (1954)

Love Will Find a Way

So here we are, another step on the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series. Next song:

23) Love Will Find a Way by Pablo Cruise

So this song was one I grew up listening to. And no I was not born in the ’60s or ’70s. My parents grew up in the ’60s and ’70s and were really into the music (of course). They had a bunch of records and my dad continuously bought CDs with all the ’70s hits that he grew up with. My love for music started with ’70s music and quickly grew foward to the ’80s and back to the ’50s. For me ’70s music will always hold a special place in my heart. In fact it makes complete sense to me that I scored that decade:

Go here to find out which one you are

Anyways, back to the song. So this was written in the 1970s, as I’m sure you guessed from the beginning of the post. It was a great pop/rock song that is really upbeat and catchy. It’s about how at first you might feel like:

And that you will never find anyone again who you will care about and will care for you. But, you do not need to give up. Love will find a way. Just keep your heart open.

Someone, someone’s done you wrong
You thought that your love was strong
Now you’re feelin’ like such a fool
You’re thinkin’ maybe if you said goodbye
You’ll understand the reason why
The love you had felt so cruel, um-hm

Oh, but it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way

Sometimes we all feel a need to change
Our love we have to rearrange
And move on to something new, yes you do
Your dreams feel like they’re fallin’ apart
You need to find a brand new start
But you’re almost afraid to be true to yourself

Oh, but it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way
Love will find a way, love will find a way

So now don’t, don’t be afraid of yourself
Just move on to something else
And let your love shine through again

Yes, ’cause it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way

Oh, but it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way

Don’t worry, you still have a chance of finding true love

And remember, never stop allowing yourself to love. Just because someone broke your heart, doesn’t mean that you should close yourself off from other people.:

Because you will find someone:

To start the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series from the beginning, go to If It Means A Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Here I Go Again

For more of my fav songs, go to Over You

For more on 1970s music, go to Carry On Wayward Son

For more on not giving up, go to I Don’t Want to Be in Love (Dance Floor Anthem)

For more on Steve Maraboli, go to Missing You

For more of my fav quotes, go to Women in Black

For more on quizzes, go to It’s All Jane Austen’s Fault