So as I was saying Marianne is not into Edward as a romantic hero.
Here is a list of Edward’s shortcomings according to Marianne
- He’s not handsome enough
- Doesn’t have the right airs or manners.
- He is tame with no fire (i.e. too much of a nice guy)
- No taste in music
- Doesn’t know anything about art
- He’s not exciting
Now who does Marianne sound like? An average teenage girl.
Yep, this book came out around 200 years ago, yet it is as relevant as today. Does that surprise you?
Let’s take a closer look at what she wants in a guy. First of all she doesn’t like Edward because he isn’t handsome enough. Now there are teenage girls who prefer substance over looks, I have to admit I was one as I liked guys who weren’t the hottest ones in school, but most young girls it’s what they see on the outside. I mean think about the guy in your high school that everyone wanted to date? Were they a nice person? Most of you will answer that as no. Nope, they tended to be all about themself.
Now I’m not saying you won’t be able to find a hot nice guy, I’m just saying that sadly most girls don’t realize until after they have had their heart broken that looks are not as important as what is on the inside of a person.
Yep, the heart or soul of a person is the most important thing.
Marianne is also not into Edward because instead of showing fire and spirit, his eyes only show intelligence and virtue. You see Marianne doesn’t want a smart, nice boy. Nope, she wants that bad boy.
Now having that bad boy can be exciting and all, but when push comes to shove they won’t care about what’s best for you but what’s best for them. Their crazy adventures will end up causing trouble for you, the “exciting” impulsive life will eventually become a bore, and their free spirit will become commitment phobia. Sadly, most young girls fall for this kind of “love” 9really attraction) instead of going with someone who is stable, reliable, and an all around guy good for you.
And those are the guys that are the best.
Marianne is also upset at his supposed disinterest in books and music.
“I could not be happy with a man whose taste did not in ever point coincide with my own. He must enter into all my feelings; the same books, the same music must charm us both.”
Now I’ll be the first to say that I love movies, books, and music.
But is that really what you want to base your relationship solely on?
Now I’m not saying it isn’t important. I mean I love reading, it is such a part of me:
And we all know my stance on film:
But that isn’t what I base a whole relationship on. The person has to read, but what they read isn’t as important as the fact that they are doing it. Loving film and having the ability to marathon is definitely needed as I like to do that as well. Having some similar tastes in music, mostly in they have to be willing to listen to my oldies and classics. But all this is superficial. What is more important is how they treat you.
Do they see you as equal or belittle you? Do they value your opinions or not care what you think about? Are they willing to value you and your time together or do they not care as they could get “any old girl”? Do they share the same values?
True back in Regency era, they didn’t really care about that. It was more about bloodlines, dowries, etc. But this should be the way it is. As a person of any age looking for the perfect guy, you need to make sure that you push through the superficial, outer layer and look instead at what is underneath. See what truly makes up that person. Or else you will learn the hard way and get your heart incredibly crushed (or worse) in the process.
So how does this turn out for Marianne?
You’ll just have to wait and see.
For more on Marianne Dashwood, go to Sisterly Roles
For more on Sense and Sensibility, go to To Edward or Not to Edward?
For more on being old fashioned, go to Treat Her Right
For more quotes, go to Adventure Time