Not a Hipster, But an O.F.

I hate hipsters.

Guys you suck!

Every hipster I have ever met have been these horrible elitist who think they are better than everyone.

Ugh. They drive me crazy. They take all the stuff I have loved for years and jack up the prices. Oh, and don’t get me started on their fake glasses wearing. Wearing glasses can be a hard life and the people who do face all kinds of challenges and it bugs me to no end to see these people wear them for “fashion.” It’s like people walking around with hearing-aids for “fashion”. It’s so rude.

I just can’t stand them, and to make things even worse everyone thinks I’m one.

You see I have always loved older things. I love classic literature (and actually have read them, not just pretended).

I love records, especially the art of the album cover!

I only like music from the past as that is what I grew up listening and I just cannot connect to modern music.

I love classic cinema as that is what my mom used to show us when we were growing up. I remember being the only kid who liked “black and white” films.

Or the only one who knew Alfred Hitchcock, William Powell, Errol Flynn, Laurence Oliver, Gregory Peck, Cary Grant, Jimmy Stewart, etc were.

I also only shopped at thrift stores as it was cheap and my family stressed the idea of using something until it was broken and unfixable. For instance I carried a CD player around with me into high school. Yes about 6 years ago when everyone had an iPod or something, I was still carrying my CD player to school and CDs to change them out.

So people think I’m a hipster, but I was doing far before the “hipster” movement came out.

Like Ginger said, I was raised old fashioned. And that’s how I like it.

It is the truth.

That’s how I was raised. Vintage, old, historic, traditional; these were a way of life for us, and especially me.

That’s right. I don’t follow the current trends, even if they are “new-old” ones. I do what I like and enjoy the things I love. Sometimes the books, clothing, film, or even dating styles I like aren’t popular:

But I don’t care if it goes against the crowd or isn’t what “everyone else is doing”. I enjoy the things I enjoy and I’m going to keep living my life the way it is.

For more on being old-fashioned, go to It’s Not Old…It’s Vintage

For more on hipsters, go to We’re in the Future: Good-bye 2015

For more in Italo Calvino, go to Baby Jane Austen

For more Ginger Rogers, go to Food, Food, Food!

Some Things Never Change

So as I was saying Marianne is not into Edward as a romantic hero.

Here is a list of Edward’s shortcomings according to Marianne

• He’s not handsome enough
• Doesn’t have the right airs or manners.
• He is tame with no fire (i.e. too much of a nice guy)
• No taste in music
• Doesn’t know anything about art
• He’s not exciting

Now who does Marianne sound like? An average teenage girl.

Yep, this book came out around 200 years ago, yet it is as relevant as today. Does that surprise you?

Let’s take a closer look at what she wants in a guy. First of all she doesn’t like Edward because he isn’t handsome enough. Now there are teenage girls who prefer substance over looks, I have to admit I was one as I liked guys who weren’t the hottest ones in school, but most young girls it’s what they see on the outside. I mean think about the guy in your high school that everyone wanted to date? Were they a nice person? Most of you will answer that as no. Nope, they tended to be all about themself.

Now I’m not saying you won’t be able to find a hot nice guy, I’m just saying that sadly most girls don’t realize until after they have had their heart broken that looks are not as important as what is on the inside of a person.

Yep, the heart or soul of a person is the most important thing.

Marianne is also not into Edward because instead of showing fire and spirit, his eyes only show intelligence and virtue. You see Marianne doesn’t want a smart, nice boy. Nope, she wants that bad boy.

Now having that bad boy can be exciting and all, but when push comes to shove they won’t care about what’s best for you but what’s best for them. Their crazy adventures will end up causing trouble for you, the “exciting” impulsive life will eventually become a bore, and their free spirit will become commitment phobia. Sadly, most young girls fall for this kind of “love” 9really attraction) instead of going with someone who is stable, reliable, and an all around guy good for you.

And those are the guys that are the best.

Marianne is also upset at his supposed disinterest in books and music.

“I could not be happy with a man whose taste did not in ever point coincide with my own. He must enter into all my feelings; the same books, the same music must charm us both.”

Now I’ll be the first to say that I love movies, books, and music.

But is that really what you want to base your relationship solely on?

Now I’m not saying it isn’t important. I mean I love reading, it is such a part of me:

And we all know my stance on film:

And music…well

But that isn’t what I base a whole relationship on. The person has to read, but what they read isn’t as important as the fact that they are doing it. Loving film and having the ability to marathon is definitely needed as I like to do that as well. Having some similar tastes in music, mostly in they have to be willing to listen to my oldies and classics. But all this is superficial. What is more important is how they treat you.

Do they see you as equal or belittle you? Do they value your opinions or not care what you think about? Are they willing to value you and your time together or do they not care as they could get “any old girl”? Do they share the same values?

Hmm

True back in Regency era, they didn’t really care about that. It was more about bloodlines, dowries, etc. But this should be the way it is. As a person of any age looking for the perfect guy, you need to make sure that you push through the superficial, outer layer and look instead at what is underneath. See what truly makes up that person. Or else you will learn the hard way and get your heart incredibly crushed (or worse) in the process.

Remember:

So how does this turn out for Marianne?

You’ll just have to wait and see.

For more on Marianne Dashwood, go to Sisterly Roles

For more on Sense and Sensibility, go to To Edward or Not to Edward?

For more on being old fashioned, go to Treat Her Right

For more quotes, go to Adventure Time

Love Will Find a Way

So here we are, another step on the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series. Next song:

23) Love Will Find a Way by Pablo Cruise

So this song was one I grew up listening to. And no I was not born in the ’60s or ’70s. My parents grew up in the ’60s and ’70s and were really into the music (of course). They had a bunch of records and my dad continuously bought CDs with all the ’70s hits that he grew up with. My love for music started with ’70s music and quickly grew foward to the ’80s and back to the ’50s. For me ’70s music will always hold a special place in my heart. In fact it makes complete sense to me that I scored that decade:

Go here to find out which one you are

Anyways, back to the song. So this was written in the 1970s, as I’m sure you guessed from the beginning of the post. It was a great pop/rock song that is really upbeat and catchy. It’s about how at first you might feel like:

And that you will never find anyone again who you will care about and will care for you. But, you do not need to give up. Love will find a way. Just keep your heart open.

Someone, someone’s done you wrong
You thought that your love was strong
Now you’re feelin’ like such a fool
You’re thinkin’ maybe if you said goodbye
You’ll understand the reason why
The love you had felt so cruel, um-hm

Oh, but it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way

Sometimes we all feel a need to change
Our love we have to rearrange
And move on to something new, yes you do
Your dreams feel like they’re fallin’ apart
You need to find a brand new start
But you’re almost afraid to be true to yourself

Oh, but it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way
Love will find a way, love will find a way

So now don’t, don’t be afraid of yourself
Just move on to something else
And let your love shine through again

Yes, ’cause it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way

Oh, but it’s all right once you get past the pain
You’ll learn to find your love again
So keep your heart open
‘Cause love will find a way

Don’t worry, you still have a chance of finding true love

And remember, never stop allowing yourself to love. Just because someone broke your heart, doesn’t mean that you should close yourself off from other people.:

Because you will find someone:

To start the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series from the beginning, go to If It Means A Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Here I Go Again

For more of my fav songs, go to Over You

For more on 1970s music, go to Carry On Wayward Son

For more on not giving up, go to I Don’t Want to Be in Love (Dance Floor Anthem)

For more on Steve Maraboli, go to Missing You

For more of my fav quotes, go to Women in Black

For more on quizzes, go to It’s All Jane Austen’s Fault