Have you ever bought a sweater or jacket, and thought this is just so me. It looks perfect.
And then you see someone wearing the same thing and am like:
Eve though we know these are mass produced and sold, everywhere: we still expect it to be something that just represents us and shows our uniqueness.
(This is one of the reasons why I only do thrift store shopping. Except pants, the right ones are just so hard to find.)
Well, I feel the same way about my name.
It’s true. We delve so much from our name. It’s one of the first things people ask, and something that becomes such a big part of our personality, whether we hate or love it.
I’ve personally have a love/hate relationship with my name. There are things I like about it, but also things I hate. Do you remember that time when everyone was looking up their names and finding out it meant “warrior” or “steady” or “brave”? Well my meaning was dumb and everyone teased me for weeks.
Now I don’t know about you all, but even though it’s not perfect, I HATE it when others share my name.
My name is an extremely popular one, I was always in a class with at least three others that shared my name (or a variation). And nothing sucks more than when someone says your name, you come over, and it’s all “no, not you. The other one.”
You made me walk all the way over here for nothing?!
And even though through my life I have probably encountered at least 40 people (from 1st to 12th grade) who shared the same name as me, I have never, ever, once been able to find any souvenir or keychain or bumper sticker, ever.
And my name is pretty popular in TV, books, and films. I just don’t get it. It’s so frustrating!
Now why I don’t like sharing my name with others, I don’t mind fictional characters. I don’t know about you, but it seems like you search for these, hoping to find someone really cool who shares the name, with traits you can emulate.
I’d tell you mine, but I don’t want to reveal my name. I like keeping the few shreds of anonymity I have. After all if someone I know reads this and tries to connect it with me, I’ll be like:
So when we last left off in Sense and Sensibility things were going haywire.
Yep. Fanny Dashwood didn’t even wait for the body of Mr. Dashwood to cool before she moved in the home and claimed it as her own.
I hate that woman.
Just calm yourself down and wait.
Anyways, Fanny’s brother also came to visit.
And was such a pleasant surprise to everyone in his kindness. In fact Elinor finds him incredibly charming.
In fact she is the one that pushes her family to spend time with him and see him as his own sweet person instead of evil incarnated like Fanny.
“I think you will like him’, said Elinor, ‘when you know more of him.”
In fact Mrs. Dashwood does grow to like him as she seems him as tender, sweet, and the perfect match for Elinor…not to mention he’s also rich and could take care of them all.
And that’s when Mrs. Dashwood starts planning their match, really taking a card from Mrs. Bennet in assuming something without any real proof of it’s existince. Yep, she thinks that Elinor and Edward are headed down the aisle.
“In a few months, my dear Marianne,’ said she [Mrs. Dashwood], ‘Elinor will, in all probability be settled for life. We shall miss her, but she will be happy.”
Yeah mom, you probably should have talked to Edward and Elinor before announcing or planning it.
Now there are two people who are not happy with this. Marianne, the first, doesn’t want Elinor to marry Edward. Now some of you might think that she doesn’t want to lose her sister, which is part of the reason, but her biggest issue with Edward is that she thinks he is boring.
Edward as a romantic hero? Marianne says:
Here is a list of Edward’s shortcomings according to Marianne
He’s not handsome enough
Doesn’t have the right airs or manners.
He is tame with no fire in his eyes (i.e. too much of a nice guy)
No taste in music
Doesn’t know anything about art
He’s not exciting
Yep, to Marianne nice, secure, sweet is not really what she wants. She’s after a guy from a romance novel who is dashing, charming, has a heart of gold, who loves music and poetry and will focus on that instead of being sweet or secure. Yep Marianne is just like you.
And the other person who is not happy about this closeness…well (as I’m sure you all guessed) that person is Fanny.
She is not about that at all:
But more on that later as well.
So To Edward or not to Edward is the question for Elinor, of which we will read the answer in an upcoming post.