When You Least Expect It

 

Everyone has someone they would rather not see.

And why does it always seem that when you aren’t thinking about them and totally don’t want to see them they walk back into your life?

really?

That happened to me the other day. I ran into my ex-boyfriend.

So I was headed to the movie theater to see the original Ghostbusters (1984) as it was being rereleased in theaters.

I was so excited that I even wore my ghostbusters costume.

Taking fandom to the EXTREME!

But then things went wrong. My theater app wasn’t working right so I had to print out my confirmation, but then of course the printer wouldn’t work.

Then I ended up getting stuck behind the theater security guy twice!

I then got stuck behind an old man complaining about the computer ticket window.

Just one thing after another

I finally reached the line and who should be in front of me? Michael.

Out of all the times in the past two years for me to run into him at the theater dressed in a Ghostbuster costume.

Sometimes I think my life could be a sitcom.

Now the last time I saw him was like two years ago and I was over him and the fact he cheated on me.

But because I don’t care doesn’t mean I want to see him. It’s like when you pass an area where a skunk has been, there is a bad stink that permeates the air and takes forever to get away from.

I had to wait behind him in line, but thankfully he was with his best friend. If he had been with the girl he cheated on me with (and later married) I don’t know if I could stop old hurts/my temper flaring up. I may have moved on, but in every path there are bumps in the road.

Anyways, I didn’t want to ruin the night, or taint it any further, so I just tried to ignore him.

Although I have to admit for a moment I felt pretty silly that after all this time I was dressed up in a costume.

But then that moment passed as I remembered how awesome I looked and how I totally rocked my costume.

And of course I saw that he noticed me and his reaction made me really upset. You see after he dumped me I went to talk to him and see if we could work it out. He acted cold and angry.

And angry after when I ran into him at the play.

what?

And angry at the theater when he saw me.

I’m like, excuse me?

What on earth do you have to be angry about? I’m the one that was cheated on! I’m the one that was dumped. I was the best girlfriend and you were the one who messed it up. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANGRY! I’M THE ONLY ONE ALLOWED TO BE!

It made me angry with him all over again.

What a horrible-

It really made me want to go up to him and just teach him a lesson.

But then after that moment of anger subsided, I remembered that if we hadn’t broken up I might have gone on longer dating a guy who didn’t appreciate me.

And I’m much happier as I am now then I ever was with him.

For more on my ex, go to You Put the Ex in Extinct

For more on Ghostbusters, go to Back to the ’80s

For more Oscar Wilde, go to Over and Over Again

For more stories from my everyday life, go to My Favorite Martian

 

Move Along

Yep:

Here we are, another post in the getting over a Heartache series.

17) Move Along by All-American Rejects

Do you remember back in the day when they used to play AAR ALL the time. It was this song and Dirty Little Secret that seemed to be in every film, TV show, radio station, and grocery store. Some of the things it was placed in was  She’s the Man, The Hitcher, Firehouse Dog, Over Her Dead Body, Rock Band, and One Tree Hill. Whenever I hear a song from this album, it takes me back to age 14.

So the song was written by Tyson Ritter the lead vocals and bass guitarist, along with Nick Wheeler, the lead guiatarist and drummer. The song was actually written to be an anti-suicide message. Wheeler said the:

“song [was] about believing in oneself and persevering in the face of problems…”

So I think that this song really applies to the Heartbreak series, as not everyone will consider a suicide after they encounter a breakup, but most will have trouble trying to believe in themselves and others, and face their problems. Not to mention moving along.

I also love the music video as it shows Ritter in a lot of different outfits with all kinds of backgrounds. It helps make the music universal and relate to everyone.

Go ahead as you waste your days with thinking
When you fall everyone stands
Another day and you’ve had your fill of sinking
With the life held in your
Hands are shaking cold
These hands are meant to hold

Speak to me, when all you got to keep is strong
Move along, move along like I know you do
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along just to make it through
Move along
Move along

So a day when you’ve lost yourself completely
Could be a night when your life ends
Such a heart that will lead you to deceiving
All the pain held in your
Hands are shaking cold
Your hands are mine to hold

Speak to me, when all you got to keep is strong
Move along, move along like I know you do
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along just to make it through
Move along
(Go on, go on, go on, go on)

When everything is wrong, we move along
(Go on, go on, go on, go on)
When everything is wrong, we move along
Along, along, along

When all you got to keep is strong
Move along, move along like I know you do
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along just to make it through

(Go on, go on, go on, go on)
Right back what is wrong
We move along

So this marks the end of the angry songs:

And into focusing in the self, completely moving on and getting over the ex.

Yep, moving forward

To start the “Getting Over A Heartbreak” series from the beginning, go to If It Means a Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Since U Been Gone

For more of my fav songs, go to But It’s Alright

For more on the universality of music, go to I’ll Be Alright Without You by Journey

For more of my fav quotes, go to It’s All Jane Austen’s Fault

For more on Julie Lessman, go to Missing You

For more on May Vanderbilt, go to Chin Up Kid

For more on Margaret Mitchell, go to That’s What You Get

For more on Sarah Dessen, go to Love Stinks

For more on She’s the Man, go to Part VII: It was Said One Night

Since U Been Gone

So here we are another step in the “Getting Over a Heartbreak” series. As you recall from Gone Forever, Put Me Out, and But It’s Alright; we still are in that angry at my ex phase. So here we are with:

16) Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson.

Now I have always liked Kelly Clarkson, although I have never really thought of myself as being a major fan. I remember when Kelly Clarkson won American Idol (yep back when the show was good and the winners actually went on to do something). I even watched her silly film From Justin to Kelly, starring her and the runner up. However, I am a huge fan of this song! I absolutely loved it!

So the song was written by Max Martin and Lukasz “Dr. Luke” Gottwald who actually wrote it for  Pink. She turned it down and it was then offered to Clarkson, in which she added more guitar and drums to counteract the light pop sound. It was number 2 on the Billboard Hot 100.

The music video is great, as after her boyfriend cheated on her and dumped her she ripped his place apart. Now I’m not one for vandalism, but finding out someone cheated on you will make anyone go crazy and pull this or a Daisy from Mystic Pizza.

It’s just a great song that truly captures how one feels after being betrayed by someone they loved and how angry they feel.

 

But just like The End by Silverstein just be careful how you react, its fine to sing about it, but if you actually participate in that kind of destruction just be prepared for the consequences.

So on to the lyrics and video!!!

Here’s the thing we started out friends
It was cool but it was all pretend
Yeah yeah
Since U Been Gone

You dedicated you took the time
Wasn’t long till I called you mine
Yeah Yeah
Since U Been Gone

And all you’d ever hear me say
Is how I pictured me with you
That’s all you’d ever hear me say

But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get
What I want
Since U Been Gone

How can I put it? You put me on
I even fell for that stupid love song
Yeah, yeah
Since U Been Gone

How come I’d never hear you say
I just wanna be with you
I guess you never felt that way

But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get (I get) what I want
Since U Been Gone

You had your chance you blew it
Out of sight, out of mind
Shut your mouth I just can’t take it
Again and again and again and again

Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get, I get what I want
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Yeah, yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get (I get)
You should know (you should know)
That I get, I get what I want
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone

So the music video is super amazing!!!

So this song became super popular that A Day to Remember did a cover and copied the music video scene by scene. It’s pretty cool.

I have to say that I really enjoy the Kelly Clarkson version, that’s why I included it, but I like the A Day to Remember  a little bit better. I like how it has more of a rock than pop sound and I like the screamo as I think it really expresses the anger in the song. But however it is sung the song is still great.

And it teaches you an important thing:

Because never forget:

And:

But at the same time don’t get too caught up in anger and bitterness. After all:

To start the “Getting Over a Heartbreak Series” from the beginning, go to If It Means A Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to But It’s Alright

For more of my fav songs. go to Put Me Out

For more of my fav quotes, go to It’s All Jane Austen’s Fault

But It’s Alright

Yep, here we have another post in the Heartbreak series.

15) But It’s Alright by Huey Lewis & the News

So this song was only covered by Huey Lewis, but he is who I am going with as this is the version I am the most familar with and love. It was originally written by J.J. Jackson in 1966 and quickly climbed the charts, becaming the best dance song of the decade. It was actually recorded in England and had a lot of famous musicians of the day, such as Terry Smith, Dick Morrissey, and John Marshall.

So the song itself is pretty explanatory. It’s about this guy who’s girl never had time for him and broke his heart. But he’s like its alright, because I’ll be fine. You’ll be the one missing out, not me. Of course we are still in the angry section, so he’s like you’re going to meet someone who will treat as horrible as you treated me.

You don’t know

How I feel

You never know

How I feel

When I needed you

To come around

You always try

To put me down

Well I know girl

Believe me when I say

That you

Are someday gonna pay

Girl but it’s alright

Alright girl

You hurt me

But it’s alright

Hey now one day

You’ll see

You’ll never find

A guy like me

Who’ll love you right

Both day and night

You never have to worry

‘Cause it’s alright

Oh what I’m tellin you girl

And we both know it’s true

I am so mixed up over you

Girl but it’s alright

All right girl

You hurt me

But it’s alright

Oh yeah

Oh yeah

My my my baby

I said it’s alright

Alright girl

Hey now it’s alright

Alright girl

Now everything I wanna say

You’ll meet a guy

That’l make you pay

He’ll treat you bad

And make you sad

And you will ruin

The love you had

Oh but I’d hate

To say I told you so

Baby

You got to got to reap what you sow

Yeah but it’s alright

Alright girl

You are payin’ now

But it’s alright

Goodbye love

Goodbye girl

You’re payin’ now

But it’s alright

You hurt me once

You hurt me twice

Oh baby

But remember, it does not to well to dwell on the past:

After all, it’s your choice in how you deal with it:

And remember:

To start the “Getting Over a Heartbreak Series” from the beginning, go to If It Means a Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Put Me Out

For more of my fav songs, go to Gone Forever

For more of my fav quotes, go to Missing You

For more on moving on from the past, go to Good or Bad

Put Me Out

 

So here we are in another post on the series of “Songs to Help You Get Over a Heartbreak” or the Heartbreak series. At this point we have gone past sadness, regret, love stinks, to being furious at the person who dumped you. This brings us to:

14) Put Me Out by The Used

Now I’ve always been a fan of The Used, but I got this song off the Vans Warped Tour 2013 Compilation album as well. If I haven’t convinced you already, you really need to check this CD out. It’s fantastic.

So the album that it is originally from  is about vulnerability and renewal. Lead singer, Bert McCracken, said:

“This record’s really about becoming more than just who you are, and allowing yourself that vulnerability to be a more powerful person. It’s a lot more positive than a lot of records we’ve written in the past. I think everyone could use some positivity nowadays.”

I like how the expression in the song is anger on how the person just threw them away after everything they did, like Paramore’s For a Pessimist, I’m Pretty Optimistic; but at the same time it is about moving on and being okay. Plus my ex was a smoker so that made an even stronger connection to the song.

You bought your smile in a corner
You paid a pretty little penny, you did.
You paint yourself in a picture
As you deny the kind of person you’ve been

You get what you feel, what you wish to be
You can’t live sarcastic sincerity
You sharpen your guilt like a guillotine
You get what you feel, you get what you feel

I gave you everything, you threw it away.
Put me out like a cigarette, out like a cigarette.
Love like a cancer, still you beg me to stay
Put me out like a cigarette, out like a cigarette.

Come on!

You pop right in to the moment,
You paid a pretty little penny, you did.
You never noticed how broken
As you deny the kind of person you’ve been

You get what you feel, what you wish to be
You can’t live sarcastic sincerity
You sharpen your guilt like a guillotine
You get what you feel, you get what you feel

I gave you everything, you threw it away.
Put me out like a cigarette, out like a cigarette.
Love like a cancer, still you beg me to stay
Put me out like a cigarette, out like a cigarette.

You kneel to pray,
Live life on your knees embrace the disease.
Stop to breathe in as you start to choke, your life begins.

YOU PUT ME OUT! LIKE A CIGARETTE!I gave you everything, you threw it away.
Put me out like a cigarette, out like a cigarette.
Love like a cancer, still you beg me to stay
Put me out like a cigarette, out like a cigarette.But you know what I’m just fine, and so you will be too:

 Yep:

To start the “Songs to Help You Get Over a Heartbreak” series, go to If It Means a Lot to You

To go to the previous post, go to Gone Forever

For more of my fav songs, go to Missing You

For more of my fav quotes, go to Pizza Power

For more song from the Vans Warped Tour 2013 Compilation CD, go to Chin Up Kid 

For more of Paramore, go to That’s What You Get